After reading this interesting article in internet, I thought it will be useful to many of my readers. So, it is here.
About two and half years back, I wrote quite a controversial piece on marriages in India. The point I was trying to put across was, there are a few crucial things that you need to know about your partner before you get hitched, tie the knot, say ‘I do’… you know, the works.
In a country where arranged marriages are prevalent, how much does one really know about a prospective bride or groom before taking such a major decision? And keeping that in mind, love marriages are no better. I have heard of so many shocking stories about how new brides/husbands are jolted out of their happily-ever-afters, with revelations they never had a clue about; even if they have dated their husbands/wives, sometimes for years.
What is the solution to this problem? After interviewing many married couples, dating couples and singles at that time, I came up with
35 intimate questions you need to know about your would-be, before saying the all-important “yes”.
Now, make no mistake, I am not asking you to tie your would-be up in a chair, splash cold water over him/her and torture him/her until you get your answers. But, isn’t it always good to know as much as you can about who you are going to spend your life with, so that you don’t get rude shocks later in life?
How about if you can’t ask? Get someone close to you to find out. My only point is, find out now, before it is too late.
Here are some excerpts from that piece. I have picked 10 important things to know before saying ‘I do’. To read the entire story, click:
35 INTIMATE questions to ask your would-be!
For the
sake of money:
1. What is his/her monthly in-hand income?
2. Any personal loans that he/she is paying off?
3. On a home loan? How many more years does he/she have to pay off the installments?
4. Is he/she okay if you have a separate bank account?
Okay so far? Moving on. What about the following
career issues?
5. How many jobs has he/she switched till date? Any particular reasons for doing so?
6. If he/she gets a job overseas, will he/she take it? What if it doesn’t offer a family status?
Now comes the tricky part. Could these
health queries make or break a marriage?
7. Will he/she take an HIV test with your family doctor?
… and these
behavioural pointers:
8. Does he/she get violent when angry?
Here’s another tricky part,
sexual preferences. Not THAT necessary, but useful, nonetheless:
9. Is he/she into deviant sexual practices?
And last but not the least, these
social queries will give you a better idea about your future life with him/her:
10. Are the both of you going to live with the parents or separately?
As a footnote, I would like to add, I had written this piece on a site dedicated to women; so it is like a finger pointed at men/prospective grooms. But in this day and age, it is imperative for both prospective partners to know as much as they can about their partners.
By Kristina in Yahoo news
The purpose of publishing this, is that they should not be careless and emotional.
