Take a bow on this day

I wanted to post something nice since 8th is "Womens Day". I received this from Mr. Balayogi.
I do not think I can write better than this Hence I am copying what he has sent.

“A woman brought you into this world, so you respect every woman”

“Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess, because just like the game of chess, the queen protects the king”

“Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.

If you give her a sperm she’ll give you a baby.

If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.

If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.

If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. 

She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.”

bhama said...

Nice one Sir. One small typo correction suggestion. "Bought" should be "Brought". Thanks

Srini Rama

March 8, 2012 8:35 AM

 hvaidya said...

Thanks for pointing out the error. I am correcting it. sorry for the blunder

March 8, 2012 8:43 AM

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

To bust stress, all that Indian women need to do is believe in themselves 
Chetan Bhagat


Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out.  Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel
stressed.

What are we doing to our women? I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies? It would be a universe full of messy, aggressive and egomaniacal males running the world, trying to outdo each other for no particular reason. There would be body odour, socks on the floor and nothing in the fridge to eat. The entertainment industry would die. Who wants to watch movies without actresses? Kids would be neglected and turn into drug addicts or psychopaths by age 10. Soon, all-male world leaders would lose their tempers at the slightest provocation, and bomb the guts out of each other’s countries. In short, without women and their sanity, the world would perish.

Yet, look at how we Indians, a land of spiritual people, treat them. At an extreme, we abort girls before they are born, neglect them in their upbringing, torture them, molest them, sell them, rape them and honour-kill them. Of course, these criminal acts are performed by a tiny minority.

However, a majority of us are involved in lesser crimes. We judge, expect too much, don’t give space and suffocate our women’s individuality. Imagine if you did this to men – won’t they be stressed out? At a broader level, this isn’t just about our women. We Indians have a habit of exploiting anyone without power. As a flip side, we are suckers for anyone with power.

We look up to corrupt politicians, keep voting them back, and feel they have an entitlement to loot us silly, because they are in power. In fact, we love power so much that when power comes to a woman, we automatically begin to regard her well too. Goddesses, female politicians, senior mothers in a household with a firm grip on family power – they all get our respect. Anyone else doesn’t.

This kind of society, which values power above equality and justice, doesn’t achieve too much. These societies remain like backward tribes, because they do not allow people without power to come up, even though they may have many talents. When we don’t allow our women to come up, or create stress for them if they do, we are not allowing half of India to come up. When we abuse our power, we kill the exploited person’s will to contribute to society. When we believe powerful people are always right, and the less powerful should be crushed, we resemble a jungle of animals. And animals don’t progress, humans do.


These regressive attitudes will take a while to change. For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels. One, don’t ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you – tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand. Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, andyou frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal. Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman  in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile, before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading the newspaper

Sent by Ms. Priya Ashok

You are on Camera

We were shocked beyond words when we read this: A male employee of a call centre in Delhi allegedly put a 'camera pen' in a packet of air-freshener just so he could record women while they were in the lavatory.

Why be safe than sorry

  So, we have decided that it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Just because you think you are in a safe surrounding, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be cautious.

Cameras these days are not like they used to be; in fact a modern camera can be the size of a ring box or even smaller. There are so many cases about women being taped and the footage posted online. As humiliating as that can be, it can also lead to psychological issues.

Whether it’s fortunate or unfortunate, the price of surveillance equipment is dropping and is now affordable, resulting in anyone buying it and installing it.

What iDiva regulars say

We asked a few of our regular iDiva readers if they had ever been in a situation whereby they have been recorded on camera or even been in a public place like a dressing room or a washroom that has cameras installed. Here's what they had to say:

“Well I’ve never seemed to have had a reason to be suspicious. I usually am very particular about where I use the washroom and the places I shop. If I think it’s a shady place, then I do not bother trying on anything there,” Rochelle Dias, 21, Student

“I am always very cautious about where I try on certain things. I make it a point to never ever use public washrooms and whenever I go to an unfamiliar surrounding, I always look around for hidden cameras. if you’re in a huge place, it’s a little difficult to detect it but if you’re in a small room, it’s much more easier,” Prina Singh, 24, Model

“I take precaution when I'm in a dressing room because I know for a fact that there are many cases wherein the shop owners or anyone in general can install a spy camera. So I usually check the place thoroughly. I’ve also told my children to do the same and to be cautious. But no I’ve never had an instance so far where I’ve been recorded or something,” Irene D'cruz, 32, Housewife

Types of spy cam

Marjorie Lapiere, a self-protection product researcher explained on hide-a-camera.com, that there are two types of cameras - Hidden wireless and CMOS.

The hidden wireless cameras are nothing more than a board camera. A board camera is fully contained on a single circuit board including camera optics and all the electronics needed for generating the video signal. Board cameras are very easy to hide because of their tiny size. A video signal is sent to a receiver and is able to be watched right then and there or recorded for viewing sometime later.

The CMOS wireless hidden spy camera on the other hand is what is placed in products such as the alarm clock, wall clock, and almost anything else that is used around the house, business, or even the office. These cameras are so small that they can be hidden in more places than one could ever imagine.


If you’re suspicious of your surroundings look around for tiny holes on objects, it could be a hidden camera.

How to detect a two-way mirror

This is once of the most common problems that women face in dressing rooms, take this test to find out if you’re being watched! It won’t cost you any time.

Place the tip of your fingernail against the reflective surface. If you notice a gap between your fingernail and the image of your nail then it is just a mirror but if your fingernail directly touches the image of your nail then it’s a two way mirror.

So next time you’re out, try and look around to spot if there are hidden cameras. Practice makes perfect. If you’re very particular about this, then get yourself a hidden camera detector, this equipment instantly finds any camera that is wired, wireless, on or even off. All you need to do look through the view finder and you’ll be able to spot any hidden camera within seconds!


courtesy: iDIVA