1. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. I like you to remember that God gave us two ears and one mouth. Use them in this ratio. Listening is truly an art form and it takes practice and commitment. If you don't listen to each other, someone else will.
2. Don't always try to be right. You cannot be right and be married. It is always better to do the right thing than to be right. Trying to always be right will doom the future of your bond. The powerful chemistry that you once felt will be diluted.
3. Never threaten to leave or divorce. Things change between you once you speak these words and it's hard to correct. Even if you're angry, don't threaten divorce.
4. Be quick to say, "I'm sorry". It amazes me how rapidly a couple is strengthened in love by sincerely saying they are sorry.
5. Don't expect your spouse to believe all the same principles you do. Respect his/her differences and him/her. Love them unconditionally.
6. Build your spouse up. Freely give encouragement and praise. Remember, it is better to give than to receive. Most people are starving for kind and uplifting words. Don't let the person you love fall into this category.
7. Always side with your spouse in disputes outside of the marriage, even when they are wrong. Respect the bond of your marriage. Give your spouse the message that "You can always count on me. I'm here for you."
8. Learn to appreciate the things your spouse does and verbalize these often. Don't take your spouse for granted. Thank him/her for the things he/she does for the marriage. Cooking, cleaning and bringing home a paycheck are worthy of frequent appreciation.
9. Try to never go to bed angry with your spouse. At the very least, learn to allow a truce between you until you can figure things out. Your marriage is more important than the conflict.
10. Start and end each day by telling your spouse that you love them. Let your eyes and your embrace convey the same message.
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Hemalatha said... - Absolutely True Sir. We should also remember that what we have/are today is because our parents stayed together. Should not we give our children the same thing - even a little more if possible? Why should they be allowed to suffer because of our high intolerance level?
Fantastic Ms. Hemalatha,
I wonder how this point was missed.That is why I highlighted your comment with bold letters which can be included as 11th point.
February 4, 2011 9:51 AM
- Hemalatha said...
- Thank you Sir. Regards
